Do you often lose sleep over the thought that your partner may be cheating on you, even though there is no solid evidence stating that they might be?

Or do you fear that they might leave you for someone better?

Jealousy and insecurity are quite common in many relationships and they are both okay to a certain extent. But when it gets to a point where it disrupts your ability to hold a healthy relationship, you need to start thinking about whether or not you are self-sabotaging.

Napoleon Hill in his classic book Think and Grow Rich, calls “the fear of loss of love” one of the six basic fears among poverty, old age, ill-health, criticism, and death. That tells you how strong this feeling can be.

The distinguishing symptoms of this fear are:

Jealousy: The habit of being suspicious of friends and loved ones without any reasonable evidence or sufficient grounds.

Fault Finding: The habit of finding fault with friends, relatives, business associates, and loved ones upon the slightest provocation, or without any cause whatsoever.

Gambling: The habit of spending beyond one’s means, or incurring debts, to provide gifts for loved ones, with the belief that love can be bought.

A careful look at these symptoms will tell you that a person seriously facing this fear is not only going to sabotage their relationships and mental health, but also their finances.

As a Success Coach, I feel like a discussion about money is incomplete without the discussion of our personal relationships. Because they do have a heavy role to play in our mindset and overall conditioning.

Take a hard look at your actions and ask yourself if you are doing something for your loved one out of love or out of the fear that you might lose them. If it’s the latter then you might self-sabotage and make your fears come true in order to prove yourself right.

For instance, testing a partner’s patience by continuously accusing them of cheating, until they leave – proves us right that they don’t love us.

That’s how our brain works. It makes us play into our fears to affirm that our perception is correct.

The best way to counter this fear is through faith. The absolute faith that those you love will stay in your life and love you. You will no longer then accuse your partner falsely, fight with them over trivial issues or spend over your budget. And all this will automatically make your relationship long-lasting.

Of course, it’s easy to tell you to have faith but with repeated affirmation, you can change your paradigm about love so that it no longer gets tied to abandonment.

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