Kathy is a smart, young woman. She has a good job at a law firm and graduated top of her class at university. Her friends think she is cheerful and lovely to be around and quite a few people have thought that she is stunning.

However, due to her relationship experiences, Kathy believes that she’s difficult to be with. She considers herself needy and insecure and braces herself for the “disappointment” her date would have to face when they see this side of her.

When Kathy finds a new boyfriend, she is initially very happy. But over time, she realizes that a lot of her emotional needs are unmet by him. She used to have certain expectations from a relationship but the guy seemed disinterested in meeting them even after she communicates. To many others, this would be a clear indication to leave. But Kathy stays in the relationship because she thinks no one else would accept her the way this guy does.

You can see how Kathy is clearly making this decision based on fear. She is afraid of being lonely for the rest of her life and never finding anyone who’ll love her, again.

This is a common phenomenon. A lot of people indulge in their scarcity mindset and make fear-based decisions about their relationships, career, or overall lifestyle. Just how Kathy is being robbed of the opportunity to be with a guy that meets her needs and makes her genuinely fulfilled, they are also being robbed of the chance at having something better.

Here are some signs that you are making a fear-based decision:

1. You are procrastinating: Starting is often the most difficult part because it entails moving forward and exploring the unknown – something that most people are afraid of.
2. You are scared of failing or success: You are constantly thinking about the consequences of your decision and if you’d be able to handle it.
3. You don’t want to be judged: What will people say? This question is running on your mind and making you anxious about taking a bold step.
4. You are making up excuses to not do it: Do you find urgent tasks to do, or responsibilities to take care of just when you think of making that decision? This may be your way of avoiding the situation.
5. A scarcity mindset: You think there are limitations to what you can have. You do not believe that the Universe would provide you with all that you want.
 

If you are saying yes to most of these, it’s time to re-evaluate. A fear-based decision will only hold you back from a lot of wonderful possibilities. So, I want you to learn how to avoid making them.

Read my next blog to find out how. (How To Make Decisions With A Prosperity Mindset)